Sex & Sexuality Poll

WareehomEw-wetak said:

I think this is because straight male is seen as a sort of default, so there's little to talk about, supposedly.

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More or less. Honestly, it's a bit rare on sites like these, not that many people notice. Most role-playing websites I've been on that don't use dice and random chance? Men are the minority by a large margin. As we've also seen in the poll, it's more or less normal for there to be quite a few gay guys too, much more than the population average.


I just pick a concept and go. They just come to me. Most end up being straight white guys like me. A very close runner up are asexuals or effectively asexual characters so because in my mind someone who is giving up a stable life for adventure often isn't interested in sex or a family but often a specific goal in which other stuff is a distraction. You know, like salarymen?
I ah, don't really like slice of life so there's usually an element of danger and drama in what I write. That's also a factor.

Getting involved in the query, I honestly have way too many characters to match my sexuality.
Although I'm quite confused about my own sexuality, I could safely call myself a bisexual/pansexual woman, as I'm generally attracted to everyone and am female.
However, I have far more male characters than female, and all of my "alter egos" (already-existing characters from other franchises, so far it's Budo Masuta, Minami Kenjirou, Miles Edgeworth and that really scared police guy from Monster Musume) are male.

Out of all my developed characters, I derived this list:
20 males; 18 females; 3 non-binary (a hermaphrodite, a transwoman and someone of ambiguous gender).
18 pansexual/bisexual: 9 male, 6 female and 3 non-binary.
11 heterosexual characters: 9 female, 2 male.
8 homosexual characters: 7 male, 1 female.
4 asexual characters: 2 male, 2 female.

I personally find it very easy to display their sexualities. In fact, for some characters, their sexualities even take part in their personalities or mental state! To me, it just comes naturally. It's just a preference of theirs (excluding the genophobic gay guy that has PTSD based around woman, hence 'mental state' :/).

While I am a homosexual, I rarely play characters of the same orientation. Playing straight characters comes very naturally to me and I don't feel the least bit bothered by it. The few times I've been in an rp with characters who were part of the LGBTQA+ community always had stereotypicalized personalities (ex. all lesbians would act butch and look like thugs and all gays had to be fluttering divas) which irritates me more than anything else.

I am a bisexual female but I honestly don't mind playing as a male character or a character that is nonbinary. In fact I play as Yoosung in a Mystic Messenger rp right now...

Bisex female. Leaning more hetero tho.

I'm a gay woman, but I've never had a problem writing a male character or a character who likes men. I tend to stay away from writing sex scenes in general, out of personal preference (it feels weird and forced for me, I dunno), so maybe that has something to do with it. I can write a romance with a male character, but sex might be a bit different. The romance, though, that just feels like another part of a story. I've never been a man or a person who likes men, but then again, I've never been an elf sorcerer either, haha.

I play female characters by a pretty vast majority. I play males sometimes, too, it's just a lot less common for whatever reason. However, all of my characters' sexuality vary greatly, from a to pan. I'm totally comfortable/happy playing any sexuality, for sure, and am comfortable playing males as well-- just prefer writing females for whatever reason.

I really have no issue with what gender or sexuality the characters I play as are, just as long as I enjoy playing 'em I'm happy.

I personally am a heterosexual female. I play males and females equally, but they are always heterosexual. I have no prejudice against any other sexuality, but that's what I feel comfortable with, and it's what gives me all the feels. <3 I admire people who are comfortable playing characters with sexualities different from their own, but I do not possess that skill!

Query: Do you role play characters who possess a sex or sexuality differing that of your own? Do you find it easy, or difficult? Is it something you feel you need to practice, or something which comes to you easily?

First of all, staring intensifies at you, my dear.
Secondly, I tend to play a variety of characters with an awful lot of sexualities, though I have taken a recent account of those I have created and roleplayed, through just text and through tabletop gaming. I came across that there is an even split between homosexual and heterosexual individuals, more males than females. I do have a few that tend to stray around the bisexual orbit, but usually either one way or the other.
Third in the list, I find it actually very easy to go through different ways of thinking because I can separate them. They are not me, but this is how they are, so this is how I will roleplay. It's fairly simple in my head.
I can always use more work, and likely always will have the ambition to improve upon it as I learn. I haven't yet run across an issue with writing them the way they are.

Damn it, Rob! why haven't you completely catered to my sexuality? I'm going to shame you on twitter and MySpace now >:[.

ThatDarnBrit said:

Damn it, Rob! why haven't you completely catered to my sexuality? I'm going to shame you on twitter and MySpace now >:[.

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I find it interesting how the amount of female bisexuals is quite close to the number of male heterosexuals. I am a bisexual female and completley accept who I am. When people disgrace me, I smile and wave proudly. I like to think I have a better chance at finding someone than those who are straight, but it is all up to fate.

Even though I'm bi, I've pretty much only ever played straight men. Typically big and angry ones, too; this extends even to my tabletop roleplaying, where I'm usually the guy who ends up playing as the big, less-than-intelligent barbarian that yells a lot and hits things hard. I don't know why, really. It's just where I end up.

I am a straight female, and I tend toward, most often, straight male and then straight female characters. I have no aversion to people/characters of other sexualities. I guess heterosexual relationships just come easiest to me, since that's how I'm wired - so that's what I end up creating!

I've had a pretty wide array of characters with different gender identities & sexual orientations over the years, but I haven't had a cisgender AND heterosexual character since...Jesus, 2013.

Q: Do you role play characters who possess a sex or sexuality differing that of your own?

A: I've mainly role played female characters, but I never really considered their sexuality unless it's canon. Sometimes, I allow the role play, itself, to determine whether my character is attracted or falls in love with another character. I usually role play as young girls so I definitely don't really have them look at anyone in a romantic way but rather in a companionship, or sibling relationship. I'd be interested and completely open in role playing a character who posses a sex/sexuality different of my own.

Q: Do you find it easy, or difficult? Is it something you feel you need to practice, or something which comes to you easily?

A: I believe that it can be a bit difficult, especially when it comes to sexuality. My main insecurity of role playing a different sexuality to my own is that I don't want to offend anyone or fall into the stereotypes of the sexuality I'm trying to portray in my characters. I believe it's something that I would need to practice and talk to others who are defined by that sexuality so that way I'm not going to offend anyone for how I role play a character and their sex/sexuality.

Okay so firstly, I'm curious as to why 'ferrets' is one of the tags on this thread. Is it an accident or a joke or just something I'm missing?

In real life, I identify as pansexual, even though I've only ever been in relationships with men and sometimes this is hard for my friends and family to grasp. The thing is, I believe that love has no gender. I've fallen in love with both men and women, and I'm open to falling in love with transgender people (both male and female), non-binary people and just about any human with a good heart. I've been attracted to transgender men and women and non-binary people before, so I know that I'm attracted to more than just the standard 'male' or 'female', which is why I don't identify as bisexual. In short, I don't care about reproductive organs or pronouns when it comes to the people I'm attracted to and/or fall in love with.

The characters I most enjoy playing are females, either pansexual, bisexual or gay and those are not difficult to do at all. I don't like playing as a heretosexual woman, except where it's like a plot where she thinks she's heterosexual and then gets seduced by a woman or some shit. I don't enjoy playing a straight woman in a FxM pairing. Never have, and probably never will like it. I do write as heterosexual male characters though in FxM pairings, which can sometimes be a challenge since I'm not male myself, but I usually get inspiration from the great men in my life when I'm writing characters like that. The most challenging sexuality for me to roleplay as is a homosexual male. I really enjoy it and I've loved all of the MxM plots I've been a part of so far, but like I said, it's really challenging for me sometimes. I do believe that it will probably get better with practice though.

When it comes to transgender, non-binary, etc. I've never tried writing as a character who identifies as one of those, but I do think it could be really great. I'd definitely want to try writing a transgender woman in the near future. I expect it will be really challenging, but I am always up for a challenge. I also agree with what the person who posted above me mentioned (Glostechk); When roleplaying characters with a sex or sexuality that is different than my own, I don't want to be offensive in any way or rely too much on stereotyping. That can sometimes be the real challenge.

ObsidianLight said:

I find it interesting how the amount of female bisexuals is quite close to the number of male heterosexuals. I am a bisexual female and completley accept who I am. When people disgrace me, I smile and wave proudly. I like to think I have a better chance at finding someone than those who are straight, but it is all up to fate.

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Wel, its not nearly so simple for men to advertize that as it is for us. They tend to speak of that behind closed doors, in the company of ppl they trust. In some countrys, male homosexualism is a capital offence; they even have concentration camps for them, like in Checeniya. In many others, including mine, it is HEAVILY frowned upon. I have seen guys get harassed/beat up over the color of clothes they wear, since they are seen as faggots. Late evening, lonely tram station at the out-skirts of my city, lets just say as a guy, you do NOT want to be wearing anithing red or heaven forbid, pink. Thats just asking for trouble, the kind of trouble that can land you in a hospital, as a man. Most men, hetero and othervise, find a sex scene betwen 2 women to be appealing/hot. But a sex scene betwen 2 men is something that repulses most men. It obviusly has to do vith them perciving a broader spektrum of sexuality as a weakness, vhich wuld make them less "manly". Now, I'm not a liberal, by any strech of the imaginetion, nor do I like most liberals, but vhen it comes to sexuality, I am very open minded (since it is part of vhat I do for a living), as long as it isnt shoved in my face. So to me, that perception most men have is a bit arhaic. I mean, I have met homsexual men. Some of them are more "manly" then most heteros I ever met. You know. Buff, tough, good fighters, emotionaly stable, etc. , all that. Evrything which is typicaly seen as "manly". None of that stereotipical image ppl have of homos, as over-senzitive efeminate males. Ofc, there are homo men like that, but there are hetero men like that, too (met my share of those too). So its not a sexual orientation thing, its a character thing.

But in a nut-shell, I belive thats the reason. Fear of geting stigmatized.