katisacat
New Member
A Description of My Gender from a Genderless Female.
I am a woman… At least that’s how you see me.
You see, there is no ‘choosing your gender’ in the eyes of a stranger
You are what they see you as and that is the fact
Saying you have no gender when you look like a woman just makes you seem… stranger.
It makes you seem like you’re saying you’re nothing,
It makes you seem like a fictional character,
Like an idea for a character in a story where you just haven’t chosen their identity yet…
It makes you seem confused.
Like you’re caught in the middle of a transition,
Stuck somewhere in the twilight zone of finding who you are in this life.
Look at it this way. A gender is a way to label yourself.
To stick a stigma patch on your arm, raise a stereotype over your head
So you have another box to fit in, another hoop to jump through,
Another way to define and confine yourself.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with having a gender.
I’m not saying you can’t be a boy or a girl, or genderfluid or bigender,
or if you’re still trying to figure it out because you know you are something.
That’s great for you.
If there’s a gender out there that perfectly describes what you are, then congratulations, really.
It’s just some of us aren’t so lucky.
Some of us don’t want to ‘fit into’ a gender.
Some of us don’t have a gender to fit into.
Some of us don’t have the right criteria
For some of us we are just… us.
And for some of us? That’s all we want to be.
We don’t want to be asked to choose a label.
We don’t want to try and define ourselves.
If you want to know who we are, then learn.
Interact with us, speak to us, listen to us,
Define us by who we are, not what we say we are.
So to the next person I tell that I have no gender.
Don’t think of me as confused, misguided, or as a person who thinks little of myself.
That’s just not the case.
I am only, me.
I am a woman… At least that’s how you see me.
You see, there is no ‘choosing your gender’ in the eyes of a stranger
You are what they see you as and that is the fact
Saying you have no gender when you look like a woman just makes you seem… stranger.
It makes you seem like you’re saying you’re nothing,
It makes you seem like a fictional character,
Like an idea for a character in a story where you just haven’t chosen their identity yet…
It makes you seem confused.
Like you’re caught in the middle of a transition,
Stuck somewhere in the twilight zone of finding who you are in this life.
Look at it this way. A gender is a way to label yourself.
To stick a stigma patch on your arm, raise a stereotype over your head
So you have another box to fit in, another hoop to jump through,
Another way to define and confine yourself.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with having a gender.
I’m not saying you can’t be a boy or a girl, or genderfluid or bigender,
or if you’re still trying to figure it out because you know you are something.
That’s great for you.
If there’s a gender out there that perfectly describes what you are, then congratulations, really.
It’s just some of us aren’t so lucky.
Some of us don’t want to ‘fit into’ a gender.
Some of us don’t have a gender to fit into.
Some of us don’t have the right criteria
For some of us we are just… us.
And for some of us? That’s all we want to be.
We don’t want to be asked to choose a label.
We don’t want to try and define ourselves.
If you want to know who we are, then learn.
Interact with us, speak to us, listen to us,
Define us by who we are, not what we say we are.
So to the next person I tell that I have no gender.
Don’t think of me as confused, misguided, or as a person who thinks little of myself.
That’s just not the case.
I am only, me.