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Wraith
Dark nodded, and took the time to really listen and understand what Alec said before responding, "That makes sense. And it makes sense why your mom was so harsh with her rules, considering what she had been through, and having two sons who might have grown to replicate certain behaviors..." He allowed the thought to trail off. Their mother had not gone about it in the right away, in his opinion, but he could see why she had done what she did.
Dark took a little bit more time to think, finishing the last of his lemonade, "It is an upbringing I understand," he admitted, "Remember I grew up in a place where seeing a woman's hair was considered immoral, if she was not your family. And it took Daizi a long time to be comfortable showing her hair, even though she did not want to follow that modesty rule anymore. There is nothing wrong with a woman who chooses to cover her hair, but my point is we both had upbringings, me more than her, where bodies were treated as extremely shameful and private and something not to see. I remember, women were not even allowed to become friends with my father, nor speak to him if he did not address them first. But there is a difference. Context is everything."
Again he paused, drumming his fingers on the tabletop, "Please forgive me and try not to expire or astral project when I say this, I cannot think of a better way to express this sentiment: When see Daizi fresh from the shower, searching through drawers for the right bra while getting ready for work in the morning, it is neutral to me. It is no different than you see a man with a towel around his waist. But there are other times when she approaches me, and the same... shapes, mean something rather different," He blushed lightly, in spite of himself, "because the intention is different. There is nothing sexual about breastfeeding, so it is not something you need to be scared or anxious about seeing. It involves a sexualized body part, but it is no more sexual than seeing a lamb suckle the sheep's udder. I do understand it is not that easy to undo years of teaching, trust me, I very much understand, but it is still something to keep in mind. It is all about context, and that is true for diaper changes too--although I do not expect you to do them. It is no more sexual than your own bathroom trips are."
Dark rubbed the back of his neck, this conversation was important, he knew, but that didn't mean it was by any means comfortable or easy. He wished he had time to prepare, "As for what happens with an actual relationship... I suppose we can discuss that later, unless you would like to talk about it now. And of course, if you have any questions, about any of it, you can come to me, with them. I know the school does anonymous question boxes for those thing, and since there are two of you, if it is easier, we could..."
Dark took a little bit more time to think, finishing the last of his lemonade, "It is an upbringing I understand," he admitted, "Remember I grew up in a place where seeing a woman's hair was considered immoral, if she was not your family. And it took Daizi a long time to be comfortable showing her hair, even though she did not want to follow that modesty rule anymore. There is nothing wrong with a woman who chooses to cover her hair, but my point is we both had upbringings, me more than her, where bodies were treated as extremely shameful and private and something not to see. I remember, women were not even allowed to become friends with my father, nor speak to him if he did not address them first. But there is a difference. Context is everything."
Again he paused, drumming his fingers on the tabletop, "Please forgive me and try not to expire or astral project when I say this, I cannot think of a better way to express this sentiment: When see Daizi fresh from the shower, searching through drawers for the right bra while getting ready for work in the morning, it is neutral to me. It is no different than you see a man with a towel around his waist. But there are other times when she approaches me, and the same... shapes, mean something rather different," He blushed lightly, in spite of himself, "because the intention is different. There is nothing sexual about breastfeeding, so it is not something you need to be scared or anxious about seeing. It involves a sexualized body part, but it is no more sexual than seeing a lamb suckle the sheep's udder. I do understand it is not that easy to undo years of teaching, trust me, I very much understand, but it is still something to keep in mind. It is all about context, and that is true for diaper changes too--although I do not expect you to do them. It is no more sexual than your own bathroom trips are."
Dark rubbed the back of his neck, this conversation was important, he knew, but that didn't mean it was by any means comfortable or easy. He wished he had time to prepare, "As for what happens with an actual relationship... I suppose we can discuss that later, unless you would like to talk about it now. And of course, if you have any questions, about any of it, you can come to me, with them. I know the school does anonymous question boxes for those thing, and since there are two of you, if it is easier, we could..."