"It's really normal to overcorrect, I think," Daizi agreed with a sigh, wondering how her relationship with her father was going to manifest in how she parented, and knowing how Dark's relationships with his was already such a hurdle for him. "It's a bit tough to say how I would go about it, because it's so unique to the child. With Alec, I can really just sit down and start asking him questions about how school is going to get him talking, and then he really just admits to all of it, unless it's really bad, and then it's a bit more complicated, but most of the time with him, if we just start talking maybe near the topic, or sometimes with something more unrelated, depending on how serious it seems--there's a quote from a song I like that's something along the lines of, things that matter too much to say anyway but lightly--but that doesn't really work with Xander, because he's more defensive. If Dark or I need to talk to him, we need to get him doing something with his hands first, most of the time. We ask him for help cleaning up, or for help cooking or folding laundry... Dark likes to invite both of them out to his shed, I think because it's such a neutral space, and there is a lot to focus on. And it's good for Xander, because he doesn't want to look at you while he is talking about hard things. I don't know Peter well enough to know what is the right way in for him, and we had to figure it out by trial-and-error with the twins."